"I saw Lea when I was really sick. I had to move back home and was dependent on my siblings and my mother for my care. Being around family drama made things worse. Lea helped me deal with all the family drama and codependency issues, which I thought I could never handle. She taught me healthy coping and communication skills, and held me accountable for using these. She made me aware of my strengths and all the things that I was already doing right. She praised and encouraged me, and really saw me for who I was at that time--"warts", tears, and potential. I never felt judged by her even when I was messing up. She was so easy to talk to. Her positivity, sense of humor, empathy, and belief in me kept me going. Slowly but surely I was able to have a better quality of life within four months, by setting really good boundaries for my health and well being."
"I wanted a therapist for my 12 year old daughter who went from happy, friendly, and doing well in school to always by herself, sad and crying a lot, angry, defiant, and hardly passing in school. I also wanted someone who could explain things to me in Tagalog/Filipino so that I wouldn't misunderstand important Psychology terms. Lea was a miracle worker with my daughter. The therapy didn't even drag for months and months like most people told me would happen. By the end of the first meeting, you could already see the difference in my daughter! She was the one who was even telling me every week, "Mommy, I can't wait to see Lea on Saturday". My daughter said that Lea understood her and talked kindly to her. Lea taught my daughter how to ask for what she needs, to talk about what she is feeling and to ask us and others for help. She learned to stand up for herself at school and at home because she was having a hard time with her oldest sister. Lea taught me and my husband different ways to get clues about what might be going on in our daughter's world. Lea told us about the good things we do as parents and helped me realize that our daughter needs time with me. After only four weeks, our daughter was back to normal again. Lea never used complicated Psychology words. She always explained what she was trying to do for our daughter. She's so easy to talk to."
"I was having a really hard time when I was in college. I hid it by being very sociable, joining a fraternity, and drinking A LOT. I started cutting in high schooI. I would cut my tummy and inner thighs so the cuts were hidden by my clothes. I would go from super happy to super sad and paranoid, just like that. I had suicidal thoughts for every little thing that didn't go my way. I saw all kinds of expensive psychologists and psychiatrists. No one could ever get me. And then I came across Lea while in college. She never got frustrated or upset with me. She was always kind and calm. She has an awesome sense of humor and managed to make me laugh even if she didn't try to. She just had this really genuinely caring and real way about her that made it so easy to trust her and talk to her. She never played mind games with me like the psychologists did. When our sessions ended, I still had my high highs and low lows and I still wouldn't take my meds always. But because of how Lea treated me, I Iistened to her and learned to not always think of hurting myself. I learned that I didn't always have to accomplish huge things or to be the most amazing person in the room. I learned to focus on what was working in my life. I learned to like myself more and to reach out to others for help."
"I found Lea on Psychology Today when I was looking for a therapist for me and my soon-to-be wife. I'm Caucasian and she's Asian and 23 years younger than me. The age difference was never an issue. At the time I found Lea to help us, I thought the problem was with my wife-to-be and not me at all. I just thought she wasn't used to living in the United States, even though she's very Westernized. Through couple's therapy, I learned to put myself in my fiance's shoes and to see things from her perspective. I learned that a good thing like living in the United States can be stressful and anxiety and sadness provoking for my fiance who was away from her family, country and friends. I learned that her culture and her family history had a lot to do with her beliefs and opinions about life. I was just thinking that everyone thought like me. Lea put my fiance and I at ease. Neither of us ever felt like she favored one of us or listened more to one of us. She taught us how to communicate proactively and to state our needs as well. She taught us how to communicate without blaming or shaming. She taught us how to really listen, instead of thinking about how we can show that one is right and the other is wrong."
"I'm 67 years old and had never been to a therapist. But I got to a point in my life and my marriage that I felt like I was so stuck, going nowhere and just feeling sadder, angrier at people and resentful. I even had a hard time falling asleep and staying asleep. I would cry a lot and my heart would race so fast. So at the suggestion of a friend who saw Lea before, I contacted her and set up an appointment. Wow! She just had a way of saying things simply. She gave really eye opening examples and metaphors so I could really understand what she was trying to help me understand. She showed me that guilt-laden responsibility and unmerited shame were keeping me stuck, angry and resentful. In just four sessions, she was able to help me give myself permission to take good care of me and to put myself first without feeling guilty. Even by the second session, I already felt better because someone finally understood me and showed me that I'm a really good and resilient person. Before seeing Lea, I couldn't even see or acknowledge how good I am or that I deserve to have a great life! Now I make dates with my female friends and do fun things with them. I also treat myself now to new clothes, plus ice cream outside my home."
"LET YOURSELF BE DRAWN BY THE STRANGE PULL OF WHAT YOU REALLY LOVE. IT WILL NOT LEAD YOU ASTRAY." --Rumi
"THESE PAINS YOU FEEL ARE MESSENGERS. LISTEN TO THEM." --Rumi
"KEEP KNOCKING AND THIS JOY INSIDE WILL EVENTUALLY OPEN A WINDOW TO LOOK TO SEE WHO'S KNOCKING." --Rumi
"DON'T WORRY IF YOU MAKE WAVES SIMPLY BY BEING YOURSELF ....THE MOON DOES IT ALL THE TIME." --Unknown
WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS YOU CHANGE YOUR FEELINGS, WHICH THEN CHANGES YOUR BEHAVIORS. THIS CHANGES THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. THEREFORE, YOUR AMAZING LIFE DEPENDS ON THE CHOICES YOU MAKE, EACH AND EVERY DAY!!!--Lea Mendoza, LMFT